10 Tips to Handling Picky Eaters
A couple things you should know before we get to tips and tricks: Just because your child has some picky preferences, doesn’t always mean there’s a problem that needs to be fixed. We all have preferences, including our children, but it may be a larger issue if:
- The pickiness causes extra work that’s a burden on the parent.
- You have anxiety about taking your child somewhere in which unfamiliar food will be served.
- Your child becomes ultra-demanding and refuses to eat what the rest of the family is having.
If you find yourself in this camp, don’t worry; you’re not alone. The most powerful tool is to serve your child what the rest of the family is eating. It’s that simple.
1. Children who aren’t big fans of fruits and veggies: Serve your family those things, eat them yourself, and consider your job done. Your job is not to force your child to eat it, just to prepare and serve it.
2. Don’t micromanage how your child eats. You (the parent) put the food on the table. The child is in charge of how much she will eat and if she wants to eat at all.
3. Avoid the 2 Bs: bribing and begging! Never under any circumstance bribe or beg your child to eat!
4. Keep trying. It can take at least a dozen times (even just on the plate) for an older toddler or child to accept a new food.
5. Don’t worry about the actual amount of vegetables being consumed. Instead, throw your energy into making delicious meals and snacks that include yummy veggies.
6. For kids who will only eat fast food or fried or battered chicken, learn to cook the chicken or other foods at home, and set a frequency limit on how often you will allow yourself to buy those items. It can also be helpful to have a “washout” period where you completely stop going to the desired restaurant for a few weeks.
7. Very small children shouldn’t be controlling what you buy and make! Don’t change what you buy at the grocery store. If they ask for a certain brand, tell them the store did not carry the product.
8. For cereal, dump it all out of the colorful boxes and into clear hard plastic, tall cereal containers. This is especially helpful for kids who love the characters on sugar-sweetened cereal boxes.
9. Understand that most food marketed to kids hooks them in every way. They love the taste, the packaging, the sameness (the fact that it always looks and tastes the same), the reliability and the excitement of bright foods made with artificial colors. Instead, buy foods with short ingredient lists and without artificial colors.
10. Don’t cater to your picky eater. Though you can’t always change your child’s preferences, what you can change is your response to him or her. Make and serve one meal. I promise: eventually, you will have a kid who enjoys eating all sorts of food!
When to seek a professional’s advice:
There is a difference between a picky eater and a resistant eater. Resistant eaters are different, they won’t “grow out of it” and most if left to “starve it out” (a well-meaning parent strategy), will refuse to eat for days. That’s because their feeding difficulties are not related to behavior but rather linked with sensory disorders, oral-motor difficulties, food intolerances and even medical disorders like reflux. If you are unsure about your child’s eating difficulties, inform your pediatrician for further testing and guidance.